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Sometimes being a man isn't all beer and skittles. Whether work is getting them down or they're struggling with the demands of fatherhood, there are many reasons why a guy might be going through a hard time.
If you're worried about a man in your life, then Movember (or November as it was once known) is a great opportunity to reach out and talk things through.
Here's how you can start a conversation and support a dad, grandad or any bloke who's doing it tough.
Embark on a four-step plan
Men aren't always comfortable talking about their feelings, but there are ways to open up the lines of communication.
If you're worried about a man's headspace, follow the Movember Foundation's simple steps to important conversations:
- Ask the question
- Listen to what he says
- Encourage action
- Check back in with him
The conversation might happen in person or online, out in nature or in front of the telly, just find a time and place that suits you both. And remember, "You won't make things worse by asking how he’s doing."
Putting the strategy into practice
To check in with a man you're concerned about:
Ask the question. Start with what you've seen and perhaps mention some of the things you've noticed about him lately. For example, say, "You seem a bit stressed these days. Is everything ok?" It might help to ask about specific things happening in his life, like fatherhood or work. And if he's not ready to talk, make sure he knows you're there for him and that you care.
Listen. The Movember Foundation says, “The most important thing is to listen. If he's open to talking, make sure you don't interrupt." Don't diagnose his problems, offer solutions or give advice, and be careful not to diminish or dismiss what he's feeling. Instead, encourage him to keep talking by nodding, asking open-ended questions or asking about things he's said.
Encourage action. Explore some of the options he might have. The Movember Foundation says, "You could ask him about the things he used to enjoy, or encourage him to consider talking to others." Men can also get information and support via help lines, online resources and professionals, like a doctor.
Check back in with him. After you've had the conversation, stay in touch with where he is and make a plan for the future, whether that’s a phone call on a specific day or a lunch date at a certain location. And when you catch up, make sure he knows you’re there when he needs you.
Where to get information and support
There are lots of places that men can get help over the phone or on the internet.
Help lines and online mental health support for men:
If you're worried that a man is at risk of suicide, refer him to a professional:
How to take part in Movember
As well as encouraging important conversations, Movember is 30 days where everyone can raise funds for men's health and have fun along the way.
Here are 4 ways to get involved with Movember:
- Grow a moustache
- Take the Move Challenge, challenging yourself to get physically active and raise funds
- Host a fund-raising event
- Make a donation
What's happening in Movember
November is packed with Movember events, so in between talking things through and growing a moustache, there are lots of opportunities to get out and about.
From barefoot bowls and beer yoga to road rides and trivia nights, access a full list of the action here.
References:
Movember Foundation
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